How to Overcome Rejection

 How to Overcome Rejection

 Great scholars likened rejection as the greatest fear in human beings. People face rejection in various forms as they travail through the paths of life. Today I’ll be writing on how you can over come rejection.

The failures we face in life represent different forms of rejection, no matter how huge or subtle they manifests. Perfecting the skills of managing rejection will keep your emotions in check and make life more meaningful despite its daunting odds.

Amidst other forms of rejections people face; rejection in love is amongst the commonest form we face out there. Personally I’ve experienced this a couple of times and I almost lost my self-esteem until II got in contact with some of the rules am going to share here with you that helped me heal and able to heal others.

Rejection in relationships and love is one of the worst places anyone prays for rejection. Most times we find ourselves wanting those who don’t really want us and when we finally muster courage to tell them and we’re turned down; it will seem as though one is not good enough to get what really matters alone. This thought alone can keep you blue for days and even weeks. Some have even commited suicide because of rejection. How about walking up to that beautiful lady on the street that gives you goose pimples to say all the beautiful things you can  think of to convince her but you get a capital NO.

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You may have heard of the guy who bought wonderful gifts and beehive of rented crowd including friends and family members and knelt down to propose to this wonder woman  whom their heart beats and unfortunately got what looks worse than a no. We’ve even heard of cases that earned the guy a dirty slap. Not forgetting the embarrassment and diminished ego that follows.

The irony of life is that people tends to love and want whatsoever that rejects them even more and end up getting hurt more. This rejection can burn out all the passion in you and some even manifest with what psychiatrists call anhedonia.

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Amongst all these negative feelings, if you persist and man up to recovery you will see yourself lively again and positivity will start creeping in. This was my own story, I got involved with a high school crush that drained me academically, the more I try, the more I see myself losing out and the said lady was becoming so powerful that should control all that happened in my life from the comfort of her heart. This continued till the lion in me woke up and I even got lucky with people whose shoes she cant fit into.

So you see you’re not alone in this battle. Also know its not peculiar to gender and race. Both male and female, black and whites go through rejection at different stages in life and that’s why we all need to learn and practice how to overcome rejection in life.

This isn’t funny at all, this can even make one take decision to drop anything dating. The hurt is like sticking a needle straight to your heart. The truth is rejection is what you get when you lie to yourself that you must get everything you want  for example in career, life and love.  This mind set will definitely make you face rejections and its consequences when you’re faced with unmet  needs.

Below are the steps on how to overcome rejection:

How to Overcome Rejection

1.Rejection has nothing to do with self worth

Most people who get rejected feel bad because of that feeling of not being worth what you don’t get. They feel they’re not good enough for what doesn’t come to them when they try. This is totally wrong as this line of thing exacerbates energy and depletes your self worth. This is not suppose to be. Getting rejected doesn’t make you a worse person than you are, neither does it mean you’re not good enough. Just know no matter how you are or the circumstances, you’re good enough for someone. Rather than draining your self worth think of it in the light that what you cant get is not what your having it. This is simple because you don’t lose anything by not dating that your dream girl rather she lost someone that would have showered her with love that knows no end. So its his or her loss not yours.

2.The person rejecting is also facing some forms of  rejection:

Remember that saying “Hurting people hurt others”. This is the whole truth, anyone hurting you is only reflecting what they are experiencing in their inner self. Some folks believe if they cant have what they want in life then others who want them cant also have them. When you remember that this person who is playing god in your life is also facing rejection somehow somewhere, you’ll learn to accept rejection in good fate. Rejection doesn’t reflect who you are but rather peoples priority at the moment. Someone can reject you for not being muscular because at that stage of life being muscular is amongst their must have in a date.


3.Rejection takes you closer to what you want:

Sometimes we settle for less and get rejected, this makes us strive for something bigger. You discover yourself leaving the realm of mediocres and achieving the unthinkable if you see yourself aiming higher each time you are faced with rejection. Remember the story of Abraham Lincoln when faced with failure at a particular stage and level, he came back next time fighting for something bigger and this earned him the office of the president of America.


4. The best is yet to come:

5.Along the journey of life, your purported destination may just the beginning of your journey. Life always has something better to offer if we’re persistent on what we want. Getting rejected should make you put of dating or achieving your career for life but rather should spur you to wait for the best which is yet to come. The best things are kept for those who patiently wait. Remember what happened at that wedding where Jesus was in attendance where after the miracle of turning water into wine the dignitaries who tasted it, said they had kept the best wine for the end of ceremony. If you take your own life now for being rejected, you’ll not be alive to see the same you making choices from many out there and also rejecting others. If you can get a throwback picture of any popular musician or artiste you’ll see that most of them don’t even look like those people will be breaking heads to be in their lives but as usual time changes things. Time can also change your own story if only you believe.

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1.Re-channel your passion:

Rather than spending all your energy and passion on what you aught to have go in search of other passions. This will help you heal from rejection and quickly fix your broken heart. If your busy with other passions you may end up forgetting such rejects even exists. Don’t allow worries of the unseen occupy your moments of excellence. Don’t cloud your existence with what is obvious can never happen. Ignoring a particular passion can even pull them towards your direction without known. Just determine to be the best person you can be.


2.Learn something new:

A new skill, hobby or task could be all that is needed to help you overcome rejection. The essence is to invest your time in other things such that you forget that whatsoever is rejecting you even exists.


3.Tour places:

Go on tour, visit some attaractive places, tourism can help you forget any aching part of your life. You can also catch your dream princess or prince in one of those pleasure trips. This why developed countries invest so much in boosting tourism because of many of its benefits. Instead of soaking your be sheets with tears and whisking away your life from rejection; brace up, go out there and pull back the pieces of your life together.

4.Make new friends

Meet nee people, make new friends, am sure you will meet people far better than your crush. You find better engagement than bothering yourself with whom you can have. Have some breath of fresh air in your life. Open up to new things and you could be me today teaching others how to overcome rejection. People are only as good as you place them in your heart. By the time you exalt someone else to that same status or even higher of the one rejecting you, you will find yourself totally free from rejection.

5.See a counsellor:

If all the above fails, you can see a professional counsellor, their job is to talk some sense into you. They can realign your life to the right direction if you willing to make  amends.


6.Self Hypnosis:

This will help you access the unconscious realm and model your life how it should be; devoid of rejection and every negative feeling. This can help you overcome the trauma of unrequited love. You will find yourself thinking less of this person and becoming a better person.

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7. Nobody is irreplaceable

I will end with this, never forget this golden rule, no matter how important anyone maybe to your life or to your dreams they can be replaced with even better options. Always open up your heart for options rather than languish in rejection.


In conclusion it is my desire that you will overcome rejection and become a better person, I also hope that the above outline points will help you in the quest for self improvement. It is my earnest desire to see you life life again in vigor and master the art and science of how to overcome rejection.


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