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HOW TO HEAL FROM A NARCISSIST IN A RELATIONSHIP

 HOW TO HEAL FROM A NARCISSIST IN A RELATIONSHIP

How to deal with narcissist partner

A person has a Narcissist personality disorder when he has an elevated sense of importance, he craves excessive attention and admiration from people, show your partner is one or not. On the other hand, some people wonder if the person they are dating has little emotion towards others and has unending issues in their relationship.


A narcissist boyfriend exhibits selfishness at the expense of others including a lack of regard for the interest or happiness of the other party so also is the narcissist girlfriend. A narcissist test for partner will reveal some of these things.

When a person is romantically entangled with a Narcissist a boyfriend or girlfriend, it is very difficult or if not impossible to detect a Narcissist, some go the point of evaluating their partner to know if he has the Narcissist personality disorder, some evaluate the treatments they receive in their relationship to know if their partner is exhibiting the Narcissist traits. It is always advised not to diagnose your partner in conversations, this Article will help you and give you tips to know if your partner has NPD and how to deal with narcissist partner in a relationship.


1. THEY WERE ROMANTICALLY CHARMING AT THE INITIAL STAGE OF THE RELATIONSHIP

At the initial stage of the having a narcissist in a relationship, they text you constantly, call you at intervals, expressed their undying love and affection towards you.
They may also have told you how important, attractive and intelligent you are and how you both complement each other. They usually have an understanding that they deserve the best and are supposed to be with the best. But people with this NPD try to construct superficial connections early in a relationship, you fall short of their high expectation, they turn you off completely. At first, you will wonder what you have done or what great offence you have committed. Now, all this has nothing to do with you, it is their belief and understanding that stands in the way with the relationship they have with others’


2. THEY ALWAYS TALK OF THEIR GREAT ACHIEVEMENTS

One of their numerous trait is that they enjoy talking about their achievements. The aim of doing this is to show you that they are smarter and better than every other person. It gives them a feeling of been secured within.
Most times they exaggerate their past achievements to gain admiration from people. If you are entangled with one, you will notice that they try to keep talking about themselves without listening to you, they will not engage in conversation that will relate to you or your well-being


3. THEY LACK EMPATHY.

Empathy involves having the ability to feel how another person is feeling. Where this is absent, it is an attribute of a narcissist in a relationship.
A Narcissist will make you feel unseen, invalid, not understood, or accepted because they lack the empathy. Your partner does not care how bad your day was, how you were able to resolve a problem, get yourself out of trouble or accomplished a great task or get bored when you relate the issues to him, then you are in with a Narcissist. Most Narcissist have broken relationships not because they are not romantic but for their lack of empathy.


4. THEY DO NOT HAVE CLOSE FRIENDS

If your partner do not have a close friend or close friends, but only have acquaintances that is people he talks down on, know you have a Narcissist as a partner. As they do not have one, they will not wish you to have any. They pick offences when you want to hang out with your buddies and accuse you of not having time for them.


5. THEY PUT YOU DOWN CONSTANTLY

When your partner gets angry at almost everything you do, how you act; It’s a sign that your partner is a narcissist in a relationship with you. 
What you eat irritates them, what you wear, how you eat, sleep, dance, how you cook will probably put them off. They call you ridiculous names, make jest of you often, use one line hurtful words. Their aim is to lower your self-esteem so that they can pride in their elevated ego as this gives them power. When you make an achievement, they look for a word to knock you off to show you that you are not better off than them. They live on a delusion that nobody is better.


6. THEY EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATE AND ABUSE YOU

Having a narcissist in a relationship can be so difficult and mind tasking as they abuse and manipulate you emotionally. This is also known as GASLIGHTING. They spew tremendous lies, forge stories against others, twist the truth and pervert justice.

HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU HAVE BEEN EMOTIONALLY ROBBED BY A NARCISSIST IN A RELATIONSHIP? 

You know this when you feel that you have lost yourself, you lose your self value, your self-esteem, you accuse yourself of been too sensitive, you see no good in whatever you do, you are always apologizing, you can not figure out what the main issue is, you scrutinize your responses to his questions, and you try to cover up for his delinquencies


7. THEY LACK RELATIONSHIP COMMITMENT

Narcissists love to be treated as a part of the relationship, they want the intimacy, emotional attachment, sexual benefits and closeness while they have their eye on others who they deem to be worthier partners
Thy flirt with the other s£x, having multiple internet conversations with them, they find pleasure admiring the body parts of the opposite s£x. When you pay attention to this, they blame you for trying to cause trouble nag.

8. THEY ARE UNAPOLOGETIC

Arguing with a narcissist in a relationship is baseless; an impossible and unrealistic mission because they are always right. They see every disagreement as an opportunity to lecture others on some truth. They never apologize when they are wrong but rather look for a possible route to justify their actions. Likewise, they lack the mental capacity to take responsibility in an issue, they never compromise their part.


9. THEY DO NOT WANT A BREAK-UP

He or She fights to keep the relationship in check. Their doing this does not mean that they are willing to change from their old ways or nature, they only want to continue their tricks of manipulation. They fear break-ups and dread losing their partners.

HOW TO LEAVE A NARCISSIST PARTNER

THE WAY OUT

Living with a Narcissist or having a relationship with a narcissist comes with its emotional traumas, the hurt, confusion, and self-hate. This will help you in your healing

1. ACCEPTING THE ABUSE

Recognizing and accepting the abuse can fasten the healing process when you're with a narcissist boyfriend or girl.

2. CUT TIES WITH THEM

Block them off, set your boundaries and stick to it, if you have children with them, it may be difficult to cut them off completely. The best option is to set boundaries and be resolute about them.

3. Prepare for Emotional traumas from a narcissist boyfriend (girlfriend)

4. Understand that the emotional attachment may linger

5. Practice self-compassion as it purges one of self guilt

6. Go on a compulsory vacation to wash the memories off

7. Be open to others

8. Pay regular visits to a therapist.


 

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